Love Yourself for Your Effort, Not Your Results

You can't drop 60 pounds in 60 minutes. You can't become a champion golfer on your first day with a club in your hands. And you can't master a life-long anger problem in your first 30 minute meditation.

Urgency never helped anyone master anything; neither has passivity. The trick is to apply the perfect balance and timing in every situation—which only God within you can and will guide you into doing—through your Receivership.

Positive change takes time. Permanent positive change requires a commitment to replacement habits that you schedule and practice; or the old ones will keep coming back whenever you're not paying attention.

Once you have the right guidance (through research, study, and Receivership), schedule and set "can't-miss" reminders to apply those replacement habits—so they actually have a real chance to become habits.

If you don't schedule it, set reminders, and practice it, you don't really want to do it—and you won't get better at it. God does not require perfection, just effort in the right direction. The only failure is you giving up on you. God never does.

I Will Love You Forever or Until God Says Stop

If a successful spiritual life is one in which you balance learning and growth, service and work, and socializing, entertainment and pleasure, God would only choose a romantic partner ("soul-mate") for you that has a lot in common with you in all those areas. After all, the more common ground, the stronger the relationship is likely to be over time.

But you can make yourself into a Divine Partner, and your present romantic partner into a "soul-mate," by relating as directed by God within you from now on. In this way, you receive God's Help to keep the relationship going in all the right directions, which God always wants to help you do—but only for as long as there is no karmic reason to end it.

Karmic reasons for God wanting you to end a romantic relationship, with a perceived "soul-mate" or not, include: growing incompatibility, personality changes, control issues, unfairness, cheating, addiction, abuse—and at times even positive changes—like one or both of you mastering having made the other a lesser god in the past.

You Can't Beat Yourself Up and Win

God is a Loving Parent and Teacher, not an angry task master. God wants you to treat yourself as you would a child or grandchild that you adore—with care, encouragement, emotional support, realistic assessment, and loving guidance.

The best way to get yourself to do better in any area of life is to always be open to learning, growing, taking advice, and changing as so directed by God within you, whether the guidance comes from God within through your Receivership, or through those God directs you to go to for help (checked by Receivership).

But getting all the right information is only the first step. Without organized, scheduled, consistent, habitual application—becoming permanently better at anything, spiritually or materially, will be unlikely—especially in the long run.

How to Cut the Right Boundaries in All You Do

Care, but don't overcare. The only way to know how much slack to cut yourself and others is through Receivership from God within you. Sometimes automatic patience can create co-dependency; and sometimes automatic impatience can cut someone off just when they're about to make a breakthrough.

There's a fine-line between careful and too careful, and between planning and procrastination. Just as you can use Repetitive Negation to find out whether a particular feeling is from God or a lesser god, you can use it to find out if you're avoiding or just waiting for the right impress from God within you.

Double-checking through Repetitive Negation when on the go, and through Receivership when at home, insures that you're always kind and never cruel to yourself or others, and thus always karmically correct in all that you say and do.

How Best to Manage Strong Emotional Pushes

The Keys to Reality teaches that strong feelings experienced during daily life on the go, whether positive or negative, and whether pushing you towards or away from a particular situation or relationship, should be double checked through Repetitive Negation before being acted upon.

To do so, you simply declare that if the push is coming from God, that God strengthens it; and if from a lesser god, that God removes it. This process can be combined with a specific Receivership when you're home to clarify what you're feeling, and what, if anything, to do about it, at the time and over time.

Repetitive Negation is especially effective when using it to resist yelling at your boss (or your kids) during a stressful situation. You simply declare, "Stop. Time Out. I don't need to feel this way. I can handle this situation better later, when I am calm and centered." Try it before you head for the door or the Haagen-Dazs.

God is a Loving, Interested Parent and Teacher

If God wants us to be the best people we can be, and we should "ask so we may receive," then God wants us to help ourselves become better—by asking God for help—step by step through Receivership—before making choices and decisions.

After all, no one becomes a better person simply by getting their material needs met. It is learning, growth, service, and socializing as directed by God within you that is required for your overall spiritual mastery and practical self-improvement over time.

Freedom from Family of Origin Problems

You don't have to be best-buddies or confidantes with those who have had the tendency to be unconscious or unfair around you—whether family, friend, foe, co-worker, or boss. You just have to stop being negative about their negativity.

When you do, you will no longer be attached to their past or present words and actions—and will thus become able to stop carrying them and their energy and influences around with you—which you have been all this time.